For this blog post we had to review a video called Reflective Writing. This video gave more insight on reflective writing. The video stated that we shouldn't focus on details as much, and gear our focus more toward how we felt it at this particular time in life. This video helped me look at how I wrote my life choice memoir, and if I focused less on the details and more on my feelings and others around me.
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For this blog post I have read part of Hills Like White Elephants by Ernest Hemingway. This reading is about a couple at a train station in Spain. The couple is discussing a relationship. The female appears to be pregnant, and “stuck” in a relationship she may not want to be in. In this post Ill voice my opinion on what I feel she should do and talk about the time I was in a similar relationship.
Does she stay in her relationship with the man? I feel that in this case Jig chose to end the relationship. I feel that if you can’t see yourself with spending the rest of your life together than your wasting your time. There has to be a want for a relationship to work. If you ever feel like you’re “stuck” or “can’t get out” then I believe it is a toxic relationship. I feel that Jig is trying to look for the brightness in this dark time, and unfortunately there isn’t one. There needs to me 100% from both parties in order for there to be a happy relationship. The man in the story is trying to persuade her to make a choice she is unsure about. In this case there is not just the two of them to think about, but they are bringing another human into this world. Although unborn, this child still has a heartbeat. The man is making it seem like a fetus’ life isn’t as important since they are not born yet. As hard as it is to raise a baby on your own nowadays I feel that for best interest of Jig and the baby she should seek her way out of the toxic situation and keep the baby. Hopefully the man will be supportive in her choice not only financially but also physically. When have you made an important choice to stay in a relationship or leave a relationship -- OR -- stay or leave a difficult situation? When I was a sophomore I began what would be the absolutely worst relationship I have ever been in. It all start when I found him on Tinder. That being my first mistake. As with any relationship the first two months were great. I began to change who I was. I dressed to impress him and acted different. I turned myself into the girl he wanted to be with hoping that it would last forever. After that it fell into a series for the next 7 months, on two weeks and off two weeks. Those seven months I became more of a personal slave to this kid. I was there to buy him things, and other things. He began to deny to other people ever talking to me, and anything to do with our relationship. Fortunately, I eventually realized my worth and called things off for good. For weeks after I stalked his social media, and even would drive past his house. I became that crazy ex-girlfriend. My mind was wired to think of him and only him. Thankfully I was able to overcome the person that I turned into. For this week’s blog post I listened to a podcast by Lulu Wang. Wang explains that her grandmother, Nai Nai, has stage 4 lung cancer, and she is terminal. Wang’s family is given the info and they chose not to tell Nai Nai about her condition. In this post I will be sharing my feelings about the situation, and what I would’ve chose to do in their situation.
A big hardship I have often been faced with is to be honest with my boyfriend’s nieces and nephew about their parents struggle with a heroin addiction. Growing up their mother was on a methadone clinic, and they knew that she needed it every day. They never knew why or what it helped with. They referred to it as “mommy’s medicine.” Their father has always been in and out of their lives. When he was away, either in rehab or jail, his sister would often have lied to them and told them that “Daddy’s at work.” As they got older they began to ask questions about his type of work. It wasn’t until my boyfriend and I took them on full time that we decided to tell them the truth. As much as it was going to hurt them we knew it was going to be better for them. We felt that they would eventually know the truth, and we wanted them to trust us. Lying would’ve potentially hurt them, and we felt that they shouldn’t have to grow up hidden from this truth. Unfortunately, this has been ongoing for their whole life, and I don’t see it ending anytime soon. This will be reflection on a short story called My Name Is Margaret by Maya Angelou. The story is placed in the 1960s where racism is a serious manner. A young girl named Margaret is a house keeper for Mrs. Cullinan. Margaret has to make a difficult decision to go with the flow or stand up for her rights.
Did you agree with Margaret's choice to break the casserole dish and two green glass cups? Personally, I feel that Margaret breaking the cups helped to prove a point. Through her actions she showed courage, and also managed to set and example of "challenging the status quo". She knew the choice she was making was not a good one, but she also displayed what it’s like to challenge the status quo. I feel that Margaret made the correct decision to break the dishes. It’s through this action that she proved her self worth. She took Mrs. Cullinan’s family dishes and broke them as if they were not valuable. These dishes were irreplaceable… often like traditions that are passed down from generation to generation. It’s through this action that she showed her self worth and courage. She was able to show that although she was diminished by those around her she still had the will power to fight for herself. She was able to free herself from abusive environment she was in. Unfortunately, even though she was free, Mrs. Glory was left behind to deal with the aftermath. She was the one that now would receive the wrath from Mrs. Cullinan for Margaret actions. If more people in this time showed the courage Margaret showed then the discrimination issue would’ve ended sooner. When have you made an important choice to either resist or not resist oppression, challenge the status quo, or refuse to obey an authority figure? When I was a junior in high school, I had to make one of the hardest decisions I would make in my entire life. My mother was the person who was pushing me in that decision. Either way I went with my decision it would still greatly affect my life forever. After lots of thinking I decided that going along with my mother decision was the best choice. I still sit here and debate everyday if I made the right choice. I know that my life would be very different if I had not went along with her decision. I wouldn’t be in the relationship that I am currently in. I know that although my mom was upset she felt that I had the decision that was in my best interest. It was in this time that I chose not to stand up for myself, and told her how I felt. Although I’ happy where I am in life right now I just don’t understand why I chose not to speak up about how I felt at this time in my life. I went along with my mom so I didn’t have to be faced with the aftermath that followed. |